I’m Erin, and I am so excited you found my little blog about adoption and foster care. Foster care and adoption are something I am extremely passionate about. My husband and I talked about adoption in our younger years, it was something we had been interested in. However, we thought we were going to have two biological children, and then adopt one day. It was a vague idea, and not something either of us really had experience with. Ten years later, we were hit with the realization that we couldn’t have children, and had four failed attempts at infertility treatments. We realized we couldn’t keep putting our marriage through the infertility struggle, and I couldn’t put my body through any more infertility treatments. So, I threw myself into Google searches on adoption, and made contact with anybody who knew about adoption, and found myself in a world of confusion and uncertainty. In the long run, I am happy we found foster to adopt. For us, this was the right path. We found our beautiful daughter, and plan on bringing many more kiddos into our home who need a safe place to stay.
Why Adoption through Foster care?
When we realized that adoption was going to be our only option to have children, I became obsessed with finding out all of the facts. I looked up adopting from other countries and private adoption. I made contacts with friends who had adopted privately, and contacted a few adoption agencies. When I was quoted 25,000-50,000 dollars or more from the adoption agencies…. I FREAKED OUT! We didn’t have that kind of money, and we had just spent thousands of dollars on unsuccessful infertility treatments that we were still working to pay off. Feeling overwhelmed, I mentioned this to one of the Vice Principals at my school who I knew had adopted his three children. He told me to research foster to adopt. Soon, I came across a woman at my moms church who used a foster family agency. She warned me how hard it would be and did not sugar coat anything. She told me foster care would be hard, and that most foster placements did not stay. But we were stubborn, we wanted children, we wanted a family with children, so I called the foster family agency. For us, this ended up being the right path. This was the path that gave us our daughter.
I still have a lot to learn about the foster care system and being an adoptive parent.
I don’t pretend to be an expert on the foster care system. We are still newbies at this. We happened to get the perfect placement the first time around. We were able to experience bringing home a 9 day old baby from the hospital, and she ended up staying. It took us 694 days to become her FOREVER FAMILY, but she stayed. Our foster agency says that we are a UNICORN in the foster care world, and for that we are LUCKY. What I do know is that there are a lot of emotional ups and downs, uncertainty, acronyms, court hearings, visits from social workers, and potential visits to biological families. There are also times where fostering can seem like a lonely scary place. But there are others out there, and we need to find each other and band together. These kids need us, and we need to share strategies, fears, and community. What I also know is that we will continue this foster care adventure, because now I am addicted to giving these kids a safe place while they need it.
I love hearing stories about others who have experienced the foster care system or adopted
Every story is so unique, and so different. Every persons path to adoption or foster care is so different. These stories fascinate me. I have gotten into long conversations with many strangers where we have shared our stories. Foster care is uncertain, but so is adoption. It leaves you with so many questions. Like, how will I tell them they are adopted? how do I incorporate their culture into my home? Do I tell them what I know about their biological family, and at what age? Will others judge them at school as they get older? How will I handle this? The questions are endless. For that, I find that I am deeply attracted to those conversations surrounding foster care and adoption. I want to support a thriving home for my daughter, and those we have yet to adopt or bring into our home. A home where they feel supported and confident in who they are. As foster parents and adoptive parents, we need to band together, share and learn.
Besides foster care…. who else am I?
I have two loves in my life…. Okay maybe THREE!
The first love is my husband. He is my sounding board, and keeps me sane. He is rational, logical, works with computers, and is the most loyal loving man. We are high school sweet hearts, and I am so incredibly lucky that I met my person at such a young age.
My second love is my daughter. She came to us through foster care at 9 days old, and we adopted her right before she turned 2. She has a vibrant personality that you can’t help but adore.
My third love is my fur baby. My dog! She came to me through a student who dropped her off at my classroom one day. Her unconditional love has helped me through some serious tears.
I am close to my family
My mom is my best friend. My husband and I are so incredibly lucky. We have parents who have supported us through this adventure we call life every step of the way. We also both have younger brothers who I adore, and love spending time with.
I have been a middle school teacher for the past 7 years
I have a bachelors degree in English, and a single subject teaching credential. For 7 years I taught at a middle school as a 7th and then 8th grade English teacher. With this being said, it is possible to foster children and have two full time working parents. But it is time for me to take a break, and be a full time mom to my daughter. I will miss having a classroom and building relationships with my students, but it’s time for a little break. Hence, the blog. My brain needs a project to work on, and I have a passion for writing and sharing my stories and strategies.
I’m crafty, I’m totally into adult coloring, and finding ways to decorate my house with things I make. I LOVE those painting classes. I am terrible at it, but it’s so fun!
I attempt to garden every Spring. Sometimes things grow, and I get lucky. Sometimes they don’t, mostly because I forget to water.
I love to cook and meal prep. I love to find easy meals that my kid will eat, and that are healthy.
I prefer to read, listen to music, get crafty, or delve into a project rather then watch television. BUT if I do watch television, I am totally into wholesome sweet shows like “Heartland” and “When Calls the Heart.”
One thing you will notice
There isn’t any pictures of my families faces. Because of the nature of this blog and for privacy reasons I won’t post faces of my family. It’s not because I don’t want to, believe me. My husband is so cute, and my daughter is so freaking adorable. BUT I am a foster mom and an adoptive mom, and these kids that we bring into our home…. well, their safety is my first priority.
So, what now? Where do we go from here?
Well, I am hoping this becomes a place for you to find solace in. To find that you are not alone in this journey.
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Thank you so much for popping over, and reading my journey. Whether you are an adoptive parent, foster parent, looking to become either of these, or are just interested in the topic, I would love to connect with you on social media, so be sure to say, “hi” on Pinterest, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Talk to you soon.